How to Be a Good Kisser
Your first few kisses can be stressful. You may ask yourself, âWill I know what to do? Will the other person like it?â. There is no magic formula for being a good kisser, it just takes practice. Here are a few tips to make your first kiss a success!
Follow your own style
Kissing is like dancing, it takes two. đœ Take turns leading the dance, and then allow yourself to be guided. Thereâs no right way to kiss, everyone has their own style. Itâs completely normal to be nervous at first. The important thing is to be attentive to the other personâs reactions and to your own needs, so that you both feel comfortable. Keep in mind there are all kinds of kisses and different contexts call for different types of kissing. This depends on our emotions or the person weâre kissing, and many other factors.
Come prepared⊠or donât!
Thereâs no wrong way to help reduce your stress. You can carry gum, a toothbrush, or think of somewhere youâre least likely to be interrupted. Whatever helps you enjoy the moment when it arises.
If things donât go exactly as planned, donât panic! You can also tell yourself youâll see how it goes when the time comes, and sometimes it can be great if itâs totally spontaneous. And if all else fails, rest assured youâll have plenty more opportunities!
Take your time
Go slowly. You donât have to jump right into an intense kiss if it doesnât feel right. đ You can start by showing affection through holding hands, giving a kiss on the cheek or forehead, hugging, etcetera. The important thing is to go slowly, one step at a time, paying attention to the other personâs comfort level. Remember that a kiss is an expression of desire and affection. Youâll feel when itâs the right moment, both for you and for the other person. đ
Go easy on yourself
When kissing, itâs normal to feel like youâre no good at first. đ Experience is the best teacher! Most importantly, make sure you respect your boundaries and those of the other person. Youâre allowed to tell the other person you donât like the way theyâre touching or kissing you, or you can show them what youâd prefer. It may feel awkward, but youâll soon found out, good communication is sexy! đ„