Heartbreak: Managing the Relationship with Your Ex
Your ex has already moved on, and you're still crying? Wondering how to get them back? Before you do anything, read these tips to understand what you're going through and take care of yourself.
Key points
👉 You can't control someone else's feelings. Accepting the breakup, even if it hurts, is essential to start healing and moving on.
👉 There's no point comparing yourself to your ex or others. You will rebuild yourself at your own pace.
How can I win my ex back?
Winning your ex back is usually mission impossible. You have no power over the other person’s feelings: even your ex can’t control his/her feelings! You can do whatever you want – call, send flowers, text, or write a letter – but it won’t change what he/she feels. And if you try too hard to get your ex back, you’re likely to be rejected.
If your ex still has feelings for you and he/she is willing to restart the relationship, it might work. Nevertheless, your relationship ended for certain specific reasons. Have the problems disappeared or are they likely to come back? It’s up to you to judge!
My ex is getting over it faster than me. Why?
Do you have a feeling that your ex is getting over your breakup faster than you? It might be true, because we don’t all experience things in the same way. But it might only be your impression. You might think the other person is doing fine, but is it possible that he/she is hurting inside and nobody knows because he/she isn’t saying anything?
It’s also possible that the other person really has moved on. That means he/she was ready. Sometimes, when things haven’t been working in a relationship for a long time, the breakup causes both sadness and relief. In that case, the heartache may not last as long.
Still, that doesn’t change the wonderful things you shared and the good times you had together. Everyone goes through heartbreak in their own way and, most importantly, at their own pace.
