Why do people say porn isn't real sex?
We're not the first people to say it: pornography isn't reality. But you're probably wondering why we keep telling you this what's the difference between porn and having sex IRL? What's the difference? We tell you all about it here.
Key points to remember
Pornographic films are... films! With a script, editing and the aim of arousing.
Porn focuses on penetration, whereas in real life, sexuality is much more diverse!
Actors and actresses are experienced adults. You're not yet 😊
PORN
It's a film, with a script and actors and actresses who are paid to make it. Their job? To get the viewer excited as quickly as possible. It has to happen fast, no matter how exaggerated or artificial. Everything is designed for the camera, from facial expressions to moans and body language.
SEX IRL
In real life, we don't perform: we live and feel things for ourselves and our partner, without trying to prove anything to an outside eye. In real life, sex isn't an exam: nobody's testing you, you don't have to be good at it and, above all, because everyone's different, there's no precise technique or behavior to be adopted absolutely.
PORN
In porn, we go all in on genitalia and explicit positions in a matter of minutes. You'll be aroused before you even have time to think about it.
SEX IRL
A sexual relationship is much more than the act of sex itself. It's about desire, chemistry with your partner, communication, maybe even affection or feelings of love. In real life, you're not horny and ready to do anything after 2 minutes: the excitement has to build! Finally, in real life, it's essential to ensure the other person's consent and to give your own... We tell you more about this in this article.
PORN
With rare exceptions, pornographic film scripts are fairly standardized, and penetration, whether vaginal or anal, is at the heart of everything, followed closely by fellatio. And, icing on the cake, actors and actresses seem to excel at these practices, since orgasm comes every time. In fact, it's simply part of the script and can be simulated.
SEX IRL
If you don't do the things you see in porn, that's okay. Sexuality is much, much more diverse than what porn shows you. The people you see in porn are grown-up and experienced, and their moments of hesitation or awkwardness are cut out in the editing! Remember, we want the viewer to get turned on very quickly, not to wonder! In your sexuality, it's perfectly normal not to know everything, especially when you've had little sexual experience. That's why it's all the more important to feel comfortable with your partner, so you can communicate with him or her without pressure!
GOOD TO KNOW
If you tend to compare yourself to what you see in porn, keep in mind that it's not necessarily a realistic reference since it's performance sex done by adults.
